So, men were once supposed to give their seat to a woman.
But that was condescending and infantilizing. So now men are jerks for not making room for women.
Of course, men are perfectly happy to say "Excuse me" and just sit down. The guy will scoot over. But women think they shouldn't have to ask, and should be treated special without asking.
Maybe we should have a norm that men should be more considerate of women. But of course THAT would be creepy, if a guy makes room for a woman but doesn't make room for a guy.
This was interesting, I thought. A woman who had spread her stuff out on the seat got mad when a guy sat down. Because he should ask first. Though he did ask first, and her headphones were too loud to hear. She injected race into it. Or was race really the deciding factor? (She does make a good point: if a black man touched a white woman's purse, cops would be called. I had not considered that, and that's why you have to read stuff...)
The narrower point is that guys generally ask people to make room, and it is more like a command. Make. Room.
But that was condescending and infantilizing. So now men are jerks for not making room for women.
Of course, men are perfectly happy to say "Excuse me" and just sit down. The guy will scoot over. But women think they shouldn't have to ask, and should be treated special without asking.
Maybe we should have a norm that men should be more considerate of women. But of course THAT would be creepy, if a guy makes room for a woman but doesn't make room for a guy.
This was interesting, I thought. A woman who had spread her stuff out on the seat got mad when a guy sat down. Because he should ask first. Though he did ask first, and her headphones were too loud to hear. She injected race into it. Or was race really the deciding factor? (She does make a good point: if a black man touched a white woman's purse, cops would be called. I had not considered that, and that's why you have to read stuff...)
The narrower point is that guys generally ask people to make room, and it is more like a command. Make. Room.
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